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Reconcilable Differences 

This #postelection fallout is very hard to walk through. So many people are on opposite ends of the spectrum in their emotions, opinions and beliefs.  I have a very diverse world so I am close to many different perspectives… even  from my own. I care so much about my family, friends and colleagues and I will not dismiss how they are feeling right now.

The question is:  where do I go and what do I do  with it? How do I process the complexity of this whole situation?

Last night at dinner my husband and I were discussing everything and I posed this question to him:  I have my beliefs and I can explain them to you with complete logic. They make sense to me and I am wholly convinced that what I believe is true. But then you take someone who has different beliefs and they can do the same… They have their own logic and they are convinced that what they believe is completely true as well. So how do you work that out?

His answer was unexpected, simple and quite profound. He said “You don’t.” Followed by “you have to accept that you don’t agree and choose to Love each other anyway.”

Two emotions ran through me when I heard his words. The first was one of relief like:  “Oh good, now I don’t have to keep wrestling with this because it’s exhausting!”   But the second emotion was frustration because I WANT to work this out, and I WANT  to make everything OK again, and I WANT people to be at peace again. But what I WANT…well, it is unattainable right now because people need time to sort through their emotions and hurts.  

As I was thinking about all of this with God this morning, He reminded me of the time shortly after Jesus died and people were fighting amongst each other.  The story is found in 1 Corinthians 1.   Christians were fighting over whose disciples they were. Some said they were followers of Paul, while others said they were followers of Apollos, and still others Peter.  They had lost focus on who they were really following:

“For it is from God alone that you have your life through Christ Jesus. He showed us God’s plan of salvation; he was the one who made us acceptable to God; he made us pure and holy and gave himself to purchase our salvation.” 1 Corinthians 1:30

Oh, if only we could get back to our foundation! God made every one of us unique intentionally and we need to remember that when we start wandering down that path of “Why can’t everyone just think and be like me?”  lf EVERYONE was just like you or me, this world would be a very boring place!  

I will end with this:  We CAN reconcile in spite of our differences!!!

“But, dear brothers, I beg you in the name of the Lord Jesus Christ to stop arguing among yourselves. Let there be real harmony so that there won’t be splits in the church. I plead with you to be of one mind, united in thought and purpose.”  1 Corinthians 1:10


I am a #Trump Supporter…

I know…that is the least #popular thing to say during this #volatile time after the #election2016 upset. However, I live in a #country that says I have the right to express my beliefs, even if its not the prevailing one. The problem is, the “freedom” in “freedom of speech” is not  always the case. Even writing that title I felt a bit nervous!  Why?  Because its not the popular thing and, many who have been vocal about liking Trump have been #ridiculed, #hated, #targeted, deleted from #twitter  and unfriended on #Facebook. So, in reality, free speech only applies safely if you agree with the mainstream.  

I will be honest and say that I did not vote for #Obama.  It wasn’t because he was African American; it wasnt because I didn’t like him; it wasn’t even because he was a #democrat.   It was simply that I did not agree with his policies.  When he won the election, sure I was disappointed and bummed out, but I accepted   that he went through the political process that all presidents go through, he won fair and square, and it was now my duty to pray for and support him.  

#DonaldTrump just went through that same process and he won #fairandsquare.  But now he and his family are being #protested against, #slandered, #hated, and #threatened.  No matter what your #political beliefs are, no one should be responding this way!  The sad part is,  it seems like no one in our nations leadership are taking the time to stand up for him and back him up. 

Honestly, if people had reacted this way when Obama was #elected, they would have been called #racists, #bigots, and #guntoting #haters.  In Trumps case, the #protesters are pretty much being given permission to act out under the guise of #freedomofspeech.  And it’s true, they have the right to express themselves. I just wish it was in a peaceful way that didn’t   degrade our #presidentelect and his family.  But its safe to do it the harsh way because its popular. 

I don’t completely agree with the way Trump acted during the election process and, to be really honest, the way he said some things made it hard to defend him.  But, ultimately, I made the #choice to #vote for him based on his policies, not his personality.

I also did not agree with the way #Hillary acted and or some of her key policies.   However, had #Clinton been elected, I would have set my #differences aside and prayed and supported her as my #president without question. 

Donald and #Melania are not just #politicalfigures, they are people.  They are doing what they #believe is right and, in a #Country where we have the #freedom to chase our #dreams, they should be treated with #respect.  No one is required to like them, but they shouldn’t be treated as terribly as they have been this last week.  

The bottom line here is simple.  If you voted for Trump, be #humble in your #gratefulness and continue to support him and his #family however you can.  If you did not vote for him, #accept that he legitimately went through the political process and try to get behind him as your new president. This #division isn’t doing anyone any good and it isn’t worth deepening the divide in our #nation. 

I will end this #blog by acknowledging that people are going to #Love or #hate everything I have said. However, before you #choose to #lash out at me, remember, it may not be the popular thing to say, but I am excercising my right to freedom of speech.  It’s ok if you don’t agree with me, but please don’t #attack me simply because I don’t agree witn you. 

#God #Bless #America

What Is Normal…?

Lately I have been feeling like I am not normal.  Like, my mind doesn’t work right.  I told my husband this and his response was simply “Meh, no one’s does”.  I thought that was the most profound thing I had heard in a long time!!  I even think he is right!  It brought me into more ‘mazeful’ thinking and I can’t even tell you the directions I have gone into this with.  

The psychological definition of normal is:  Approximately average in any trait, as intelligence, personality, or emotional adjustment; free from any mental disorder; sane

As I read that, I realized:  “I don’t want to be THAT!!!”  Who would want to be normal if it means that you don’t stand apart from the crowd, that you blend in so much that no one sees you?!?!  It isn’t me and I am realizing that I’m okay with this.  The only drawback is that when you do stand out, you end up being a target sometimes.  I have been misquoted, misunderstood, and misjudged more times than I can count.  Why?  Because I stood out!  Because I had the courage to be different…to be ME.  

I realize now that, what I previously thought was discouragement, was really exhaustion.  I’m tired of feeling guilty for who I am.  I just want to be me and not have to deal with people’s hang ups with it.  I have found more security in being me in the last 7 years, but those same years have caused me a lot of heartache.  I am really a well-meaning, kind, thoughtful, and loving person.  Unfortunately, people funnel these traits into their own interpretations and take me completely the wrong way.

I’m not saying that I don’t care about people.  What I AM saying is that I am working on not taking your views of how you think people should act like or behave and applying them to who I am.  I am NOT who you want me to be because I’m not you.  I Love what my son has as his texting signature:  I AM ME…Awesome!  I am taking a huge lesson from my precious young son and proclaiming that from now on I will walk in HUMBLE CONFIDENCE and choose to say to the world and all of those around me that….I AM ME!!!  If you can accept that, welcome to my life.  If you can’t, enjoy the company of others because I am staying just the way I am with the exception of allowing my God to speak to me and change me if HE sees fit.  To Him I will gladly conform.  But only to HIM. 🙂

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