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What Is Normal…?

Lately I have been feeling like I am not normal.  Like, my mind doesn’t work right.  I told my husband this and his response was simply “Meh, no one’s does”.  I thought that was the most profound thing I had heard in a long time!!  I even think he is right!  It brought me into more ‘mazeful’ thinking and I can’t even tell you the directions I have gone into this with.  

The psychological definition of normal is:  Approximately average in any trait, as intelligence, personality, or emotional adjustment; free from any mental disorder; sane

As I read that, I realized:  “I don’t want to be THAT!!!”  Who would want to be normal if it means that you don’t stand apart from the crowd, that you blend in so much that no one sees you?!?!  It isn’t me and I am realizing that I’m okay with this.  The only drawback is that when you do stand out, you end up being a target sometimes.  I have been misquoted, misunderstood, and misjudged more times than I can count.  Why?  Because I stood out!  Because I had the courage to be different…to be ME.  

I realize now that, what I previously thought was discouragement, was really exhaustion.  I’m tired of feeling guilty for who I am.  I just want to be me and not have to deal with people’s hang ups with it.  I have found more security in being me in the last 7 years, but those same years have caused me a lot of heartache.  I am really a well-meaning, kind, thoughtful, and loving person.  Unfortunately, people funnel these traits into their own interpretations and take me completely the wrong way.

I’m not saying that I don’t care about people.  What I AM saying is that I am working on not taking your views of how you think people should act like or behave and applying them to who I am.  I am NOT who you want me to be because I’m not you.  I Love what my son has as his texting signature:  I AM ME…Awesome!  I am taking a huge lesson from my precious young son and proclaiming that from now on I will walk in HUMBLE CONFIDENCE and choose to say to the world and all of those around me that….I AM ME!!!  If you can accept that, welcome to my life.  If you can’t, enjoy the company of others because I am staying just the way I am with the exception of allowing my God to speak to me and change me if HE sees fit.  To Him I will gladly conform.  But only to HIM. 🙂

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For No One

The blogs I will be writing from here on in are for no one.  Not really.  If anyone happens to stumble upon them and it somehow touches them, then that will be a bonus.  Really, I just need somewhere to place these thousands of thoughts that race through the maze inside my head and my heart.  Everyday I struggle with things that I honestly think would blow peoples minds.  Those who know me would NEVER guess the things I struggle with.  Some things are good, some are awful, some are great, some are downright sad. But who can I talk to about these things?  No one.  Well….almost.  God.  God is The One I talk to incessantly.  But I end up keeping the things I wish I could leave at His throne.  I muddle through this maze with the same thoughts over and over and over.  So, I figured, why not find a place to put them so that I don’t have to keep them in my head.  Thus, this blog.  If you are a lighthearted person and don’t like to look into things very deeply, then these blogs are NOT for you.  Feel free to find more interesting surface topics that please you and know that I am in awe and envy of you and wish I was more like you :).  If you are a deep thinker, go ahead and read but I’m sure I will carry you in many directions you won’t want to go in.  Feel free to move on without offense.  That rules out about 99% of you :)…so as I stated in the beginning, this blog is pretty much for no one.  Just for me to get things out of my head and somewhere else.  Thank you for at least reading THIS one single blog and even if I saw you in cyberspace, I wouldn’t know it so chow baby and see you on the flip side!!!

Thu Misseeng Lynk

No, I’m not talking about the whole creation/evolution thing…lol! I am actually talking about something much more complicated!!! The missing link between parents and teenagers. It’s like there are two different languages and no translator to bridge them. I, as a parent, haven’t figured it all out and by the time I do, they will all be grown and out of the house….hah!

I do have a pretty healthy relationship with them even though we still have some very rough moments. My biggest goal is to figure out how to “communicate” on their level without “getting” on their level.

I think the biggest mistake I see right now is that we, as parents, think we have been through everything they are going through. The truth is, we haven’t gone through anything close to what these kids are going through today. The times are completely different now than when we were teenagers. Yes, we had our crap and our issues, but those things are about 100 times worse now than they were then.

I try to bridge my experiences with what the kids are experiencing now. It is not always easy either. I want to think that I understand what they are feeling and what they are going through but I am not there walking through the school hallways with them seeing what they are seeing, feeling what they are feeling, hearing what they are hearing and dealing with what they are dealing with. I just get them when they come home and try to listen to them, hear what they are truly saying, understand as much as I can, Love them as much as I can Love them, and try to pass on whatever wisdom I have to pass on.

The most important thing I can do for them is pray. Not just for them, but for me. Pray that God would give me His wisdom because mine is far from enough. Prov 3 says “Do not be wise in your own eyes, fear God and shun evil.” Our own wisdom is not enough to carry us through this parenting thing, we NEED God more than we can possibly know! And as for you teens, give us a break! Lol! We have never done this before and we are doing the best we can. We are not perfect and we know how much we can’t do this on our own. Be patient with us when we think we understand and we don’t. Respect us when you don’t agree with us but have to do what we say. Honor us when we ask you not to do something that you think you can handle. Receive us when we reach out to Love you and pray for us when you just can’t handle what we are putting you through :).

Jeremiah 29:12 says “Then you will come and pray to me and I will listen…” God will speak to us and to you if we are all seeking Him and truly listening to what He has to say to us.

I still don’t know how to get parents and teenagers to talk, like the title says… it’s the missing link. I can only pray that parents and teens alike can start to try and understand one another and take time to truly listen to what each is saying.

Teens, parents have lots and lots of wisdom to pass on to you. Parents, we have a lot to learn about today’s world that our teens are living in and give them a lot more credit for who they are than what we currently do. Teens, you need to trust us as parents that for the most part, we really do know what is best for you. Parents, we need to start listening before we get angry, correct, or discipline our kids. They are doing so much better than most kids who are not Christians. They are growing up and we need to loose control over them, not lose control over them. They are brighter, smarter, and wiser now and we need to give them the respect of listening to what they have to say as well.

Most importantly, we all need to be close to Christ, listening and seeking His wisdom and His will for all our lives. HE is the missing link that can bridge us together.

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