Archive for November, 2011

Thu Misseeng Lynk

No, I’m not talking about the whole creation/evolution thing…lol! I am actually talking about something much more complicated!!! The missing link between parents and teenagers. It’s like there are two different languages and no translator to bridge them. I, as a parent, haven’t figured it all out and by the time I do, they will all be grown and out of the house….hah!

I do have a pretty healthy relationship with them even though we still have some very rough moments. My biggest goal is to figure out how to “communicate” on their level without “getting” on their level.

I think the biggest mistake I see right now is that we, as parents, think we have been through everything they are going through. The truth is, we haven’t gone through anything close to what these kids are going through today. The times are completely different now than when we were teenagers. Yes, we had our crap and our issues, but those things are about 100 times worse now than they were then.

I try to bridge my experiences with what the kids are experiencing now. It is not always easy either. I want to think that I understand what they are feeling and what they are going through but I am not there walking through the school hallways with them seeing what they are seeing, feeling what they are feeling, hearing what they are hearing and dealing with what they are dealing with. I just get them when they come home and try to listen to them, hear what they are truly saying, understand as much as I can, Love them as much as I can Love them, and try to pass on whatever wisdom I have to pass on.

The most important thing I can do for them is pray. Not just for them, but for me. Pray that God would give me His wisdom because mine is far from enough. Prov 3 says “Do not be wise in your own eyes, fear God and shun evil.” Our own wisdom is not enough to carry us through this parenting thing, we NEED God more than we can possibly know! And as for you teens, give us a break! Lol! We have never done this before and we are doing the best we can. We are not perfect and we know how much we can’t do this on our own. Be patient with us when we think we understand and we don’t. Respect us when you don’t agree with us but have to do what we say. Honor us when we ask you not to do something that you think you can handle. Receive us when we reach out to Love you and pray for us when you just can’t handle what we are putting you through :).

Jeremiah 29:12 says “Then you will come and pray to me and I will listen…” God will speak to us and to you if we are all seeking Him and truly listening to what He has to say to us.

I still don’t know how to get parents and teenagers to talk, like the title says… it’s the missing link. I can only pray that parents and teens alike can start to try and understand one another and take time to truly listen to what each is saying.

Teens, parents have lots and lots of wisdom to pass on to you. Parents, we have a lot to learn about today’s world that our teens are living in and give them a lot more credit for who they are than what we currently do. Teens, you need to trust us as parents that for the most part, we really do know what is best for you. Parents, we need to start listening before we get angry, correct, or discipline our kids. They are doing so much better than most kids who are not Christians. They are growing up and we need to loose control over them, not lose control over them. They are brighter, smarter, and wiser now and we need to give them the respect of listening to what they have to say as well.

Most importantly, we all need to be close to Christ, listening and seeking His wisdom and His will for all our lives. HE is the missing link that can bridge us together.